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She wakes up because she has to pee. The house is thick with that after-party stillness cups on the counter, air a little stale. Her boyfriend isn’t beside her. There are sounds down the hall.
Sometimes betrayal isn’t uncovered through months of suspicion. It’s a hallway. A half-second glance. A body that turns around and walks back to bed without making noise. The scene is almost ordinary in scale. Living room. Mattress. Two people who were laughing an hour earlier.
This isn’t only about sex. It’s about how close it all is. A best friend sleeping over. A boyfriend who used to feel certain. A party she hosted herself. No elaborate secrecy. Just a few meters of distance and a doorframe.
Before denial, before crying, before competing explanations there is that image. The quiet house. The decision to retreat.
The rupture doesn’t begin with the night. It builds in smaller, less dramatic shifts less physical intimacy, fewer shared hours, subtle withdrawal that never quite becomes a conversation. She senses it but adjusts around it, partly out of love, partly out of self-doubt.
At a birthday party she hosts for her best friend, she notices her boyfriend being slightly too physical with that same friend. She registers it and lets it go. Hours later, she witnesses them having sex in her living room. She does not confront them immediately.
What follows is not confession but resistance. When she raises it, he denies everything, questions her perception, suggests technical interference. Only when presented with screenshots does he shift the story toward regret and lost connection. Meanwhile, the friend frames the relationship as “intensely strong and real,” positioning the betrayal as something that simply evolved.
The breakup becomes practical: evidence collected, belongings packed, numbers blocked. Yet the conflict extends outward shared friends, doorstep confrontations, unanswered messages. The ending is logistical. The aftershocks are not.
Text Version
I (22F) woke up in the middle of the night to find my best friend (22F) sleeping with my boyfriend (24M) in the living room
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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/kjsother
I (22F) woke up in the middle of the night to find my best friend (22F) sleeping with my boyfriend (24M) in the living room
Originally posted to r/relationship_advice
TRIGGER WARNING: Infidelity, obsessive behavior, mentions of revenge porn
Original Post – rareddit Apr 24, 2019
Throw away account for obvious reasons, and sorry for any formatting, I’m on a mobile.
I don’t even know where to begin, my head is such a mess right now.. So my boyfriend “john” and I have been dating for three years and at the beggining, it was the most romantic love story. I met him when I was 18 and starting dweating him when I was 19 and qt more I dated him, the more I saw a future with him.
He would always put time and effort into me, take care of me and go an extra mile to put a smile on my face. But things have changed since then to say the least, after about 1.5 years of dating. It started with little things, like him not wanting to kiss me as much or finding excuses to not hang out. We went from seeing each other every day to only hanging out maybe once or twice a week for two hours. I know he’s got his own life and I’m not trying to control him, but I wish he would make me feel a little more special and maybe make an extra effort to see me.
I should probably also mention that I suffer from depression and a low self esteem, and it’s probably really hard on John when I’m in a bad state. I try not to but sometimes I just can’t help feeling so alone and in the dark.
So anyways, we were celebrating my bestfriend’s (ex-bestfriend now?) birthday at my house last night with a bunch of friends (maybe about 20) and there was a fair bit of drinking. The reason she couldn’t have the party at her house was because she shares her place with room mates, which was fine because I had no problem throwing her party at mine, as long as she helped clean the house up in the morning.
The night went alright, but I did I notice John and “Sarah” (the best friend) we’re getting a little too close like him grabbing her from behind and spinning her around. But I just brushed it off because I never noticed anything before and we are all bestfriends.
So after around midnight, everyone has left and John, Sarah and I are just chilling in the longueroom laughing about our night together. And when it was ready for bed, I set up a mattress in the longueroom for Sarah and John told me he’d be in our bed soon. So I went to bed and crashed alone. And maybe after a few hours I woke up in the middle of the night desperately needing to pee. Now I don’t have a bathroom connected to my room, it’s down the hall. So I slowly get up and realise John isn’t in our bed?? So I went to walk down the hall when I start to hear like moaning noises and I’m like wtf and I peek my head down the hall to see John and Sarah having sex. I know I should of confronted them right there and then but I couldn’t, I just sneaked back into bed and cried silently. I didn’t even have a chance to pee.
So now it’s morning, Johns snuck back into our bed and is acting like nothing’s happened. I’ve lost a long life bestfriend and a boyfriend I put three YEARS into you. I don’t even know how to confront them, I’m not even sure if I can confirm what I had seen because we were all drinking, it’s driving my insanity crazy. But the real kicker is that John and I haven’t slept together in months, but he can sleep with her. I just feel so low.
How can I comfort them and even begin to process this? I don’t want to lose John, we have our ups and downs but he’s everything to me :((( if everyone has ever been in this situation and has any advice, feel free to let me know, just don’t be too brutal. I think I already know what I have to do..
RELEVANT COMMENTS
_channelorange
Unbelievable…I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I would first sit down with John and just be straight up about what you saw and heard. There’s no way he can lie or deny it without looking like an idiot. I would deal with Sarah afterwards. Damn snake lol.
Honestly though if it were me in this situation, I would cut them both off right after confronting them. No questions asked. What your “friend” and boyfriend did was beyond betrayal. There are no excuses and I wouldn’t even bother trying to hear them out.
OOP
I’m thinking if doing this once Sarah leaves which should hopefully be soon, I’m just hiding away in my room I feel so pathetic
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silverriver2113
All i can say is leave. He cheated on you and broke your trust. You deserve better. Find someone who respects you.
OOP
One thing I’m scared about leaving is that he has private photos of me and I’m afraid he will share them if I left him in such a abrupt way.. He can be that kind of petty person
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I think I know his password, I’m going to try delete the photos before I confront him with the excuse that I “need to check my email” or something like that, I’m just hoping there aren’t backed up.
But if something happens, I will definitely go to the police.
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Bossraven24
You need to call BOTH them out and get out of the relationship ASAP!!! If he’s willing to cheat on you in your house with what was suppose to be your best friend he’ll never change and it also sounds like he’s been pushing you away all ready anyways. But like I said if he’s willing to fuck someone else when your in the next room is unacceptable! I’ve would of been beating my friends face in!!! So I do give you props for not stabbing anyone of them. Not just one person broke your trust BUT 2 of them together. Anyways get out Now!! This means mostly like he’s been fucking other people too. Probably at least. Sorry for the double betrayal.
OOP
Thank you for the encouragement I wish I had your strength, I’m going to confront him when Sarah leaves
OOP Edited/updated the next day Apr 25, 2019
EDIT 1: I used the excuse that I had to text my mother “what day were hanging out today” (I don’t have credit and John knows that, so he didn’t suspect anything) and I went through his phone and the evidence was pretty damming, they’ve been sleeping together for a while.. I took screenshots of their conversations and sent it to my phone in case he tried to deny it.
After all that, I confronted him when Sarah left, it was so hard to even get the words out. AND YOU KNOW WHAT, HE DENIED IT!! He told me that he loves me more than anything and would never do that, and that I should know that and to stop accusing him of such silly non-sense. That’s when I told him I’ve seen all of his and Sarah’s messages.. At first he still kept denying it saying “someone’s hacked his accounts” and he doesn’t know what I’m talking about, but eventually he broke down crying saying he loves me and doesn’t wanna lose me, but couldn’t feel the spark anymore and it was the biggest mistake of his life. He wants to make this work and push past this.. Well maybe you should of tried instead of sleeping with my best friend?
So I told him to leave, and of course he doesn’t “know” where his car keys are and asks if it’s okay to stay for a few hours when his best friend Mark gets off work so he can pick him up. It was so difficult to say no but I did, I just wanted to be alone. I don’t even know who he is anymore! He ended up “finding” his car keys and he’s been calling and messaging me ever since.
As for Sarah, I got a message from her saying this (I’m assuming John gave HER the heads up): “I can’t even explain how sorry I am [my name], I never wanted to hurt you and I don’t know how this happened, but something grew between “John” and I and I can’t deny that what we have is so intensely strong and real. I hope we can work for this and I hope you can someday come to become okay with me and “John” being a couple. I wish you the best of luck and when your ready, please message me. Lots of love x” SO I DONT KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE! John is telling me he wants to work through this while Sarah is saying their a couple. I’m now going to be ending it with John and my mum is gonna come meet with me and stay for a few days to make sure I’m Okay. Thanks for all the advice reddit 🙁
RELEVANT COMMENTS
AncapsAreCommies
“I never wanted to hurt you and I don’t know how this happened, but something grew between “John” and I and I can’t deny that what we have is so intensely strong and real”
So real omg! Until one of them “loses that spark!!” and cheats on the other…
This is how people act when they have no self control or willpower. If you’re losing “tHe SpArK” you don’t go fuck other people, you try to work on your relationship or you end it if you’re not willing.
OOP
Exactly!! He should of ended it with me months ago when he first felt something for the snake at least. I no longer have any respect for either of them 🙁
EDIT 2: First of all I would like to thank everyone for yours words of advice and support, I really appreciate in a time like this.
Some of you guys suggested that I send the messages that John sent me to Sarah. Me and my mum talked about it and how I might come off as spiteful and jealous, but I thought screw it. I don’t owe you guys the time of day or respect, so I sent them to her. At first she didn’t respond and ignored it, but then replied asking to meet up and discuss this. Shes now playing the victim saying she had no idea that John still wanted to pursue me and that we’ve both been played. Pftttt
I have no idea if Sarah messaged John or what came of those messages. I honestly want nothing to do with them anymore. My plan is to pack up all johns shit and leave it out the front outside, then message him he can collect it WHILE I’m at work. He’s got three days to get it until I donate it to a charity. I also then blocked his number and every social media account, so he can no longer contact me. I’ve also removed his name from any shared responsibilities/accounts we have together and any mail of his that is sent to my address, will be returned to sender because I’m not putting up with any more of his shit.
As for Sarah, I have no intention of keeping that snake as a bestfriend. But unfortunately we travel in the same friend group, so I’ll just have to avoid any future gatherings that she’s participating in. Luckily I have friends that love me and will help me move through this.
Thank you again for your support!
EDIT 3: He picked up his stuff, loaded it into his car and then SHOWED UP TO MY DOOR! I told him to pick it up during my work hours but of course he didn’t have the decency to give me fucking that!! I’m so angry!
Mum said that he tried to walk through the door and she told him to get lost and slammed the door in his face. I could hear him calling my name and it made me cry a little harder but I just wish if I could of have the scarification of watching him have the door slammed in his face! Just arghhhh, what a peice of shit
FINAL COMMENTS
OOP
I spoke about it to two of my friends and I’m assuming everyone knows by now. I just don’t have the mindset to really talk about it with them atm but they understand. But as much as I hate her, I don’t want the group to feel like they have to choice
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It starts quietly. A relationship that once felt expansive narrows into shorter visits, less touch, fewer small reassurances. Nothing explosive. Just space.
At the party he grabs her friend from behind and spins her around. It’s playful, easy to dismiss. Everyone’s drinking. They’re all close. She notices anyway.
Then the escalation lands without warning. Night. Hallway. A sound that doesn’t fit. She looks. She sees. She goes back to bed and cries into the pillow. He returns later and slides in beside her.
Morning comes. He acts normal.
When she confronts him, the sequence is almost mechanical. He says he loves her more than anything. He says she should know that. He calls the accusation silly. After she mentions the messages, he pivots maybe someone hacked him. Then he cries. Then it was a mistake. Then he couldn’t feel the spark anymore. Then he wants to work through it.
Meanwhile, the friend writes about something “intensely strong and real,” as if the relationship has already moved forward without her consent. Two accounts, both urgent, both incompatible. She stands between them, holding screenshots.
What’s striking is how quickly her footing shifts. He loses his car keys. He asks to stay longer. He keeps calling. Later, he shows up at the door despite clear instructions not to. Her mother answers instead and slams it shut. His voice carries through the wood.
The practical steps follow blocking, removing shared responsibilities, placing his belongings outside. Clean actions. Administrative almost.
But the social circle remains shared. The history remains shared. And somewhere in that overlap, something unfinished lingers.
