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He bought her a sports bra as a prank. She wore it anyway.
That’s the version you could tell at a dinner table. A logo most people wouldn’t clock. A husband waiting, almost eagerly, to hear whether anyone stared. The bra hanging on the radiator to dry. She pulls it on before a run. He asks who looked.
It would be easy to slot this into petty revenge territory. But the air around it feels tighter than that. The humor depends on asymmetry on her not knowing, on him revealing. When she keeps wearing it, partly out of spite and partly because it genuinely supports her better than the expensive ones she’s tried, the tone shifts. The joke stops working the way he planned.
Sometimes the object isn’t the point. Sometimes it’s who gets to decide what it means.
An ill-conceived prank exposes a fault line that was already there. He buys revealing sportswear with a porn-branded logo, anticipating a reaction. She doesn’t give him the embarrassment he seems to expect. Instead, she notices the undertone jealousy about her past, especially involving Black men, refracted through a private joke made public.
Her retaliation is small but pointed: she keeps wearing the bra. He insists it was harmless. The friction moves from teasing into something more routine questions about the gym, attempts to make her switch locations, body-based jokes in front of friends. The pattern accumulates without dramatic explosions.
The pivot comes quietly. While she’s out, he throws the bra away, justifying it by saying he paid for it. By then, the garment carries more weight than fabric should. The divorce follows not as a single reaction but as a tally spoken aloud. The bra is only the visible thread.
Text Version
My husband bought me some sportswear for a prank but I kept wearing it and now he’s mad. Should I stop?
ONGOING
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/blackedgymgirl
Originally posted to r/WhatShouldIDo
My husband bought me some sportswear for a prank but I kept wearing it and now he’s mad. Should I stop?
Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: emotional abuse, manipulation, racism
Mood Spoilers: schadenfreude
Original Post: August 29, 2025
I posted this on AITAH yesterday but it got deleted for some reason.
I’m 35 and he’s 29. He bought me a sports bra and bottoms that he saw on an insta model and thought they’d suit me. The shorts are pretty much thongs but I loved the bra as it was very supportive and wore it to the gym.
When I got back he asked if anyone said anything about my sports bra if anyone looked. I said no (people do look in the gym but I always say no when he asks as he’s a bit jealous) and he seemed disappointed. When I asked why he started laughing and said the logo on the sports bra “Blacked” is a porn company that specialises in interracial porn.
I didn’t really get the prank as I don’t think many people would know that but it annoyed me he tried to humiliate me and I said “bit ironic you sent me outside in that when you got upset finding out I’d been with black men”
This caused a big argument and since then I’ve worn this sports bra every time I’ve been to the gym or out on runs out of spite. I even out the bottoms on under my shorts and make sure the waistband sticks out with blacked wrote all around it. I’ve even thought about posting a pic of myself on Instagram wearing it and going to his friends bbq on Sunday wearing it.
Should I carry on this petty revenge or stop?
Editor’s note: OOP has posted the same (now deleted) original post onto the AITAH subreddit prior to this one. I am adding relevant comments from the sub for more context
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: No you’re NTAH idk why men think it’s ok to use that against us like sorry we don’t see people by just appearance smh
OOP: It nearly split us up when he first reacted to it as I found it racist but he told me he just watched too much porn when he was younger and he was insecure. Can’t be that insecure if he’s sending me out in porn related sportswear.
Commenter 2: Your boyfriend is weird. Not the ahole, I’d be annoyed and creeped out
OOP: I was honestly very annoyed and that’s why I’ve kept wearing it to annoy him.
Commenter 3: You’re NTA for wearing the clothes he gave you hoping you’d wear.
But you’re in a cold war and not sure this relationship has any chance of going anywhere healthy, so YTA to yourself if you don’t make a change.
OOP: I’ll be honest me stooping to his level has me questioning myself and this relationship.
Commenter 4: If this type of thing is normal in your relationship, I suspect you may have bigger issues. Have a look at this quiz, if nothing else than for shits and giggles.
Personally, I’d be infuriated that my partner decided to actively try humiliate me. I’d also be upset at them policing and restricting what I wear and places I go, never mind feeling alone and sad over not being able to trust that we can talk about it without there being a fight.
Remember: It’s only a joke and a prank if everyone’s laughing. People laughing at you while you’re upset isn’t a joke or a prank, that’s just plain bullying.
OOP: Everything you’ve said is true 😔.
Commenter 5: Na but YWBTA to yourself if you stayed with a man who controls what you wear and makes you change gyms because he is insecure
OOP: He tried to make me change gym. No chance I was changing.
OOP’s location
OOP: We aren’t in America.
Commenter 6: This man is your Yolanda. You were doomed from the day he darkened your doorstep. This is borderline racism. He is getting off on embarrassing you. He INTENDED to humiliate you. It is that deep.
OOP: He said he wasn’t trying to embarrass me but I don’t see how he isn’t trying to embarrass me.
Why is OOP’s husband still upset with her?
OOP: I’ve asked him all this and he just keeps saying “it was a joke!” So I said “well is the joke not still running if I keep wearing it? Why is it different now I’m in on the joke?” And he’ll just say it’s not the same.
OOP on the sport bra
OOP: I like how supportive the bra is though lol
I’ve spent hundreds on sports bras in the past as I’m 32dd so it’s hard to find something that holds them down and stops them hurting and this sports bra is the best I’ve ever had!
Update October 13, 2025 (1.5 months later)
Posted this about a month and a half ago so thought I’d update.
I didn’t end up posting it on Instagram or wearing it to the bbq I mentioned wearing it to because he threw them away when I went out and left them on the radiator to dry. I’ll be honest I wouldn’t have dared anyway but I went to put the bra on (under my t shirt) to go for a run and couldn’t find it anywhere. I asked him if he’d seen it and he said he bought them so he can do what he wants with them and he threw them in a public bin so I wouldn’t find them.
I was so angry! They were mine not his and while I didn’t care about the bottoms the bra was very supportive! I was just thinking about taking his PS5 that I bought and binning it to prove a point but then I took a breath, went for a walk, returned a couple of hours later and told him I want a divorce.
Being the idiot he is he said “what? Over a bra?” Not realising it was a build up of the way he was acting before all that. I reeled off a list off a list of stuff, trying to humiliate me with the prank in the first place, calling me “saggy tits” in front of his friends all the time, being jealous and possessive, belittling my hobbies and things I do for fun, constantly talking about women like shit and a few other things. All he would say was “well why didn’t you divorce me when that happened?” to every point which was annoying. His only defence was the saggy tit one when he said “they’ve seen your tits and like them so it’s only a joke” he did ask years ago if he could show them a pic and I said yes.
I moved out that day and said I’d continue to pay my half of the rent until the contract is up at the end of January. I went to stay at a hotel for a couple of nights before one of my brothers friends said I go could stay in one of his empty properties and I’m still here now. I actually really like it and think I’ll stay here for good.
He still messages a lot, a mix between asking me back and trying to make jealous but I ignore him. I’ve spoke to a lawyer and started the divorce but she said it’ll probably take around a year
Sorry the update wasn’t much fun but it is what it is for now. If anyone’s interested when I start having a fun life again I’ll let you know lol. Me and a friend are going to Amsterdam next week so that should be fun.
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: I find it odd you married an idiot and put up with his borderline abuse for years and then all of a sudden grew a spine after a Reddit post.
OOP: I think it was the fact he wanted to publicly humiliate me and then his reaction when it didn’t work. That plus the fact in the last month or so he also forced me to change gyms and a bit of extra confidence from going to the gym made me realise.
Commenter 2: speak to the landlord see if you can get your name off the lease so you dont have to pay for somewhere you dont live you are paying for him to have the whole place to himself
OOP: I’ve told the landlord I’ve moved out so anything that happens is on my ex.
Commenter 3: Good for you for leaving. A partner is supposed to uplift you, not humiliate or mock you. Honestly wearing the activewear was such a power move and I’m here for it. Wish you the best in your new life.
OOP: I just wish I’d dared wear the whole outfit now lol.
Source
The first image that sticks isn’t the logo. It’s him asking whether anyone looked at her.
Not how it felt to wear. Not whether it fit. Just whether anyone looked.
He calls it a joke. He shrugs, says he used to watch too much porn, that he was insecure. She answers with action instead of argument wearing the bra again, letting the waistband peek above her shorts, considering posting it, considering showing up to the barbecue in it. The energy turns competitive, almost adolescent. For a moment it looks like mutual pettiness.
Then it narrows.
She comes back from being out and reaches for the bra on the radiator. It’s not there. She asks if he’s seen it. He says he threw it away. Says he bought it, so he can do what he wants with it. Says he put it in a public bin so she wouldn’t find it.
There’s no speech about power. No lecture. Just that exchange in a kitchen or hallway somewhere.
Midway through all of this, something clarifies. The humor only works when he controls the frame. When she steps into it keeps wearing it, refuses to flinch the tone changes. “It’s not the same,” he tells her. That sentence does more work than he probably realizes.
His insecurity is real enough; he names it. But insecurity that starts directing where someone works out, what they wear, how they present themselves to friends begins to harden. The jokes about her body. The attempt to change gyms. The repeated question: why didn’t you leave then?
Escalation here isn’t explosive. It’s steady. A tightening.
She goes for a walk instead of throwing out his console. She comes back and lists things, one after another. He asks, “Over a bra?”
The radiator is empty.
